What is happiness? People have debated this question for ages. But although you may not know how to define it, you definitely know what happiness is when you feel it. And although happiness is not the same for everyone, there is no person alive who doesn’t strive for it. We all desire happiness but those who know how to really achieve it are rare.
Most of us spend our life waiting for happiness to knock on our door and for it to magically happen to us. But what we don’t know is that happiness will never choose us, until we choose it. If you want to be happy, you are the one who has to choose to be happy. Your happiness is in your hands.
Happiness, although being the final goal, is not a destination. It is not a result, it is a journey and a way of life. You live a stressful life, surrounded by different kinds of negativities and you think that it is impossible for you to be happy in these circumstances.
Your family is always criticizing you, you are not satisfied with the relationship you are in, your job doesn’t fulfill you, you have financial problems and your friends are not the best either. And you blame destiny for everything. You think that you are simply not born to be happy and although you won’t admit this to yourself, you’ve come to terms with it. You’ve accepted that you will have good and bad moments in your life but that you will probably never achieve the ultimate happiness. So, you’ve given up.
You’ve decided to handle life the best way you can, without expecting to ever be truly and completely satisfied with it. You are actually just going with the flow, thinking you wouldn’t be able to change anything, even if you tried. And I am here to tell you that this is the worst decision you could ever make.
Maybe you don’t know it but you are the one who gave up on your own happiness. You are the one who forbids yourself to be happy and you are the one who chose to be unhappy.
It is not that you were not born under a lucky star, it is not that the universe hates you and it is not that you suffer from bad luck. You are the one who chooses whom and what you allow into your life. You are the only one with the power to choose how different things and people affect you. And most importantly, you are the only one with the power to choose how you react to everything life puts you through. It’s time to understand that you’ll never be happy until you realize your happiness is in your hands. You are the creator of your own destiny.
You are the only one who has the power to influence and to direct your own life. I know it is probably easier for you to blame some higher force for the way you are feeling but it’s time to carry some responsibility on your shoulders as well. Life will always be stressful and it will always put you through difficult situations but it is only up to you how you will let it affect you. Your attitude toward life determines your happiness.
You can choose whether you’ll focus on the bad things that are happening to you and keep yourself from being happy or you’ll think of them as valuable lessons. There is good and bad in everything and that is something you can’t have an impact on but it is up to you whether you’ll choose to see the good in everything or vice versa. It’s up to you to train your mind to think positive thoughts and when you accomplish that, you’ll be happy—not because everything is good but because you chose to see the good in everything.
Sometimes, things will not be OK but that is all a part of life and that is not something you should run away from.
Sometimes you’ll experience negative emotions but it is your choice whether you’ll allow those negative emotions to take control of you and to completely consume you, turning you into a bitter, pessimistic person or you’ll face these negative things that are happening to you, embrace those emotions as a part of life and focus on making the best of things.
But remember, happiness is not something that you can just choose to feel, without working on it. It is not a gift from the universe, it requires effort and time. Eventually, when you experience it, you’ll see that everything was worth it.